The 10 Habits of Highly Successful Parents of Teens: Day 5

9. They give their teens the desire to be married. For some this is easy – for others, this could be one of the hardest things to impart to your teens. But why this is so important, is because your teens have been observing your marriage/attitude about marriage their entire lives. Does that give them a desire to be married? Maybe your marriage isn’t quite where you wish it was. Or maybe you are a single parent. Regardless of where your marriage is, if you want your teens to grow up, get married and be happy with their choice, it’s important for you to stay positive about marriage NOW, while they are still in your home. We’ve seen so many early 20-somethings with such a negative view on marriage, because of the way their parents talked about being married. But on the flip side, we’ve also seen some of the most healthy, joyful, perspectives on marriage come from the 20-somethings whose parents stayed positive about the sanctity of marriage, regardless of their own marital situation. So the key here is: stay positive!

10. They work themselves out of a job! These are the parents who intentionally parent with the viewpoint that their beloved children will soon be adults. So they teach them responsibility, money management, time management, constant talks about romance and relationship standards, hearing from and obeying God’s voice, respect, and much, much more. The goal of these parents is to produce responsible adults, who by the time they leave home, are no longer absolutely dependent on mom and dad.

I know this list is by no means complete. However, this list has come from talking with, ministering to, and observing countless parents around the world for the last 8 years.

What about you? Do you have anything to add to our list? I’d LOVE to hear from you!


The 10 Habits of Highly Successful Parents of Teens: Day 4

7. They listen to their teen’s opinion. Sometimes we as parents are so intent on making sure our teens understand our family values, we do all the talking and forget to listen to what they have to say. This is huge! Let them feel like they have a voice in your home. We’ve found that when teenagers don’t feel like their parents “hear” them, they go elsewhere to be heard. Unfortunately, many of us have seen teens find listeners in the wrong crowd – and sometimes the consequences are great. Join the countless awesome parents we know, and become a listener!

8. They teach them media discernment. Why can’t they watch that movie? Why is that music off limits? Why aren’t they allowed to go to that website? Remember that your teens will very possibly leave home within the next 7 years for school, marriage, etc. What will they do when they are suddenly “free”? When they are allowed to choose the media they intake, will they choose wisely? Teach your teens WHY you have the rules you do. Let them study it. Encourage them to research the negative effects on things such as violent video games. Help them to own the same convictions you do for themselves.

Be sure and check back tomorrow for our last two Habits of Highly Successful Parents of Teens!