I recently received this testimony about Passport 2 Purity (P2P) from a mom who attended one of my parenting sessions. It was so good I had to share! I sincerely admire this mom who is determined to share the truth with her son, despite the difficulties of being a single mom. Way to go, mom!
I came across the P2P kit when I attended a Generations of Virtue parenting talk in March 2014. As a single mom, I was fretting about how to have The Conversation with my son (then 14 years old), and thought that P2P would be a good tool.
When I opened the kit, I was overwhelmed by the planning and preparation that was required! I thought to myself – “it’s too much work. I don’t think I can find a suitable destination or a fun activity that would fit the purpose.”
Nonetheless, I took time to read through the notes not once, not twice, but several times – digesting it, thinking about it. Specifically, I prayed to God to help me plan for this, to show me how to do this, and to prepare our hearts for this. Slowly, a plan took form.
I decided not to follow strictly to the schedule recommended. Instead, I planned it into our family vacation to Gold Coast, Australia in June 2014. It was significant as it was the first time he and I were going on a vacation, just the two of us. Until then, vacations were always with friends or the extended family. It was also his 14th birthday present.
I gathered the materials needed for the activities and packed them into the luggage, without him knowing. The audio tracks were downloaded into my phone for easy playback, along with headphones.
We did our first session on the flight out to Gold Coast. The rest of sessions in the evenings were spread out over the next six days – usually in the evenings, when we are back from the day’s activities. Being away really helped as it took us away from our daily routines and distractions. Both of us were relaxed, enjoying ourselves tremendously and not worrying about chores/schoolwork.
There were some awkward moments (at least for me), when instructions were given to “talk with your dad” and during topics of physical changes/masturbation. However, these moments passed quickly. The main benefit of P2P was that it provided a clear, structured framework to discuss the various issues relating to puberty, sexual purity and dating. The questions provided a great start to otherwise awkward conversations.
At the end of it, it was not just my son who benefited from it. I too gained a deeper understanding of my teenage son. I feel P2P has also brought us closer. My son is not shy to come to me with issues or concerns he is having about his growing up, how he relates to his peers, even how to start a conversation with a girl!
In fact, I’m planning to do a “refresher” course with him this year, focusing on setting boundaries, and dating.
Julie Hiramine is a mom, author, and the founder and executive director of the ministry Generations of Virtue. As an internationally noted speaker, she has ministered in many nations to thousands of parents, teens, and young people. Julie believes the key to turning the tide of an immoral culture is to equip parents to empower their children to be pure.
One of Julie’s main inspirations (besides the Lord’s calling, of course!) is her own children. In fact, the ministry of Generations of Virtue came about largely through Julie’s prayers for a strategy she could use with her own children. Julie and Kay have 5 children, whom they have homeschooled and taken along on numerous ministry trips around the U.S. and overseas. When not ministering, one of Kay and Julie’s favorite activities is cooking gourmet meals (much to the delight of the Generations of Virtue team). The Hiramine family lives in Colorado and western New York when they are not on the road.