It’s a beautiful morning. There you sit, relaxing over a cup of Henry’s Blend coffee and reading the morning paper. After finishing an article on families, you reflect for a moment on your own blessings. Adventurous Prince #1, Daring Prince #2, and Precious Princess #3. Ahh yes, life is full and joyous. Activity nearby causes your thoughts to be disrupted and you hear “princess” getting her breakfast. It’s then you look up, astonished at what you see. “Princess” is practically a woman.
I think this moment hits just about every parent, with each of our children when they seem to grow up overnight. There are many things we can do, but I’ll leave the epistles to another and just give you two ideas!
1. Give her things in stages. For example, every new thing we give our girls can be a rite of passage for them. So if you’ve let them do everything from painting their nails, talking for hours on the phone or given them a cell phone by the time they’re 8 years old, what will they get to do at 12? Will you have run out of things? Book recommendation: Six Ways to Keep the “Little” in Your Girl by Dannah Gresh
2. Be her source of information. Let her feel free to come to you with any questions she has about growing older, her body changes, friends, etc. Her questions are so important to her, and we never want our daughters to be afraid or feel ashamed to come to us. It’s also important that we give out information before she asks! She may feel embarrassed to ask you certain questions, and might get information from a friend instead. By you starting the conversation, you are letting her know that this information is important, and you’re happy to discuss anything with her. Book recommendation: Beautifully Made by Julie Hiramine, and The Wonderful Way Babies Are Made by Larry Christenson
Just remember Mom, you are doing a great job! Don’t ever let past mistakes, either from your youth or in recent years, keep you feeling bad about yourself as a parent! God says: Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:18-19 NIV